In my personal opinion, I do not believe that dating is 'essentially practice for divorce' as many 'anti-daters' argue. Despite negative messages from media and entertainment industry, I believe dating is a practical element in preparation for marriage. Without dating, it may be difficult to decide if someone is a proper lifelong partner. However, the 'anti-daters' did make a valid argument by claiming that much of the dating world has taken an "on to the next one" mentality, in which people have multiple partners with no real lasting relationships. This may lead to an increase in divorce rates; yet, I am still not convinced that we need to revert back to traditional manners of dating. I agree with Freitas and King's assertion that dating can teach people how to love and take responsibility. But, this would not be very effective against recreational dating.
I have definitely noticed a change in the dating culture as I have moved through high school. Freshman and sophomore year, dating was not very serious, but as I reached Junior and Senior year, I noticed that more people were interested in long-term relationships. But after graduation.... then what? Typically couples that were once so dedicated to one another will break apart due to long-distance issues. Additionally, there is a certain freedom that accompanies your first year in college. You are exposed to a completely new set of people, and it is natural to want to experiment and not be tied down. Although, this sense of "freedom" is typically abused and college students take things way too far. The term "hooking-up" becomes blurry, and serious forms of sexual expression become casual.
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